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I can’t believe I’ve been single this long

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One and a half years ago, I went through a life changing experience. At the time, it didn’t feel life changing. It felt horrible, dreadful, like my life had come to an end and worst of all I kept having flashbacks of my proud little self telling my girlfriends how I’ll never allow myself to go through a heartbreak. Yet there I was, having pyjama parties with tears as the main dish 😀


I broke up with the guy I thought was the one two days after my birthday. We had met each other’s families, planned our lives together and I was sure I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. But life took a sharp turn and I was tossed into the valley of heartbreak and sorrow. The first night I slept in my mom’s bed and called in sick at the place I was working. The weeks after that were filled with me slipping into the bathroom to bawl out my eyes in the middle of work.


So many times, I thought I had done a mistake and wanted to call and ask him to come back. When I broke up with my ex, the first thing I told God is “I am tired. I don’t want to date anymore and you know how great I am at rebounds so I need you to protect me for myself’ This is because for so long, I was the girk hopping from one relationship to another, looking for fulfillment in the arms of a man.


I’ve been single for one and a half years without a situationship or rebound and that my friend is a miracle. ( I think I should throw myself a party 😀 )


Yesterday, I was talking to my little sister about my journey being single and the many things I’m discovering and I thought to myself “maybe there are other sisters or even brothers out there whom I could share this journey that I’m on with through my writing”


With that in mind, I’m adding another category to my blog which will be called single lane, where we will walk on my single journey (however long it will be :-D.


I hope that I can learn from you too, whether you’re singe or not, because at the end of the day none of us knows it all.




Love & Blessings
22 Responses
  • Isla
    June 17, 2018

    Its so encouraging how you speak of this phase of your life dear. May God continue to enrich you dear. You are a blessing in many ways….

  • Nsubuga
    May 25, 2018

    Great story

  • Soh Ojiambo
    May 22, 2018

    Hahaha….. Let’s walk the talk and see how far we can get…..

  • Freshia
    May 22, 2018

    I’ve been single all my life,and it’s only y until this year did I make a decision to be content.Coz i had lived through life wanting out of this phase …but now, slowly I’m starting the new journey of singleness and contentment…it’s do- able,with God of course

    • Koome Ivy
      June 16, 2018

      Kabisa. In His time, He’ll make all things beautiful, including the wait for a Knight

  • Martha
    May 22, 2018

    You should throw yourself a party dear… For me I went for 2 and half years without dating this is after being heartbroken to an extend of being hit by a vehicle because of depression..thanks to God because I managed to overcome the depression despite it taking so long… It’s good when depressed have a chat with your close friends… It really helped me…

    • Koome Ivy
      June 16, 2018

      Thankfully, I walked the journey and healed as well. I’m having a blast as a single girl 🎉 thank you for reading dear

  • Dommy
    May 21, 2018

    Being single is a blessing. So we should choose to do something with it and not something about it

    • Koome Ivy
      June 16, 2018

      I love that phrase “choose to do something with it, not about it”

      • M.G
        June 30, 2018

        We should walk this journey together. Aren’t we both single?

  • Princess Wangari Maina
    May 21, 2018

    As I was reading through I just saw myself, haha..We go through similar journeys in life

  • Lewis Imax
    May 21, 2018

    Add me to single lane , aki, I have been in Campus for six years , I didn’t have a girlfriend . I thought I have a weakness but later released am on right truck

    • Koome Ivy
      June 16, 2018

      If I repeated campus, I’d date no one till the end so thumbs up to you 👍

  • Kamau leah
    May 21, 2018

    Never rely on someone, I believe women we are strong enough to stand by ourselves with God by our side. Keep fighting girl

  • Beth Wanyoro
    May 21, 2018

    The feeling of wanting to call back and thinking you were wrong is usually very strong but until you get to yourself again is when it hits you.. But at times you need a support system to help you realize how strong you are

  • Jane Kariuki
    May 21, 2018

    You have an amazing story Ivy, will surely be following you closely. In future, I will call on you to mentor and talk to teens that I work with.

  • Jane Kariuki
    May 21, 2018

    You have an amazing story Ivy, I will be following you closely. in future will be calling you to mentor and talk to the teens I work with.

  • Winfrey
    May 21, 2018

    Your blog asked me what I think.. soon here we go.. nataka guacamole…

    also.. so happy for you.. we are in the most beautiful of times as we go through the beautiful story God’s written for us.. the beautiful story He wrote for us before the foundation of the earth..❤❤

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