This is me, stepping out for a date, looking like a snack 😂 ( I’ve always wanted to use the phrase “looking like a snack” 😁)
Most importantly, this is me, going on a date, by myself!!!
One of the things I’ve always done is wait to be taken out. By an admirer, a crush or a boyfriend. While reading a book called ‘The artists way’ by Julia Cameron I came across something called the ‘Artists Date.’
This is a date where an artist spoils him/herself for the sake of keeping her creative self alive.
After reading it, I was quite intrigued. I thought about how I always wait for some dude to spoil me and take me out but never actually did it for myself. So I started taking myself out.🎉
Every week I have a date day for myself. I do a different activity based on what I want.
Sometimes it’s a walk in the evening where I pick a spot and watch the sunset, other times it’s a visit to an art gallery because I like art or a simple lunch date. I also check the internet for upcoming events which I attend alone (this has helped me make lots of new friends).
On the day of the date, I take time to shower and dress up. I put on my lipstick like I’m actually meeting someone special (of which I am) then I go for my date and spend time with myself. I even put my phone on silent.
It has been the most exciting experience. I always feel so rejuvenated and full after the date.
I never plan on what to do during the date. I let it go as it will. Sometimes I review how I’ve been, how my heart is fairing, sometimes I play or stare at whatever captures my eye, other times me and Abba just talk for hours. One time I took myself out for dinner then afterwards went to the rugby pitch at school, laid on my back and watched the stars. It was so good.😊
I’m learning to take care of myself before anyone does. To treat myself like the queen that I am. To press pause on this noisy world, spend time alone without an agenda and simply enjoy being Ivy. It has done wonders.
I’d recommend this whether you’re single or not. (I have a friend who’s married with kids and she takes herself on weekly dates.)
And it doesn’t have to be expensive. You can go for a walk, you can go picking flowers. You can buy yourself a bag of cheese and onion crisps, sit alone and eat it slowly savoring every taste. You can make yourself a nice dinner, set up the table and light a candle, and then eat slowly with some nice Rnb playing in the background 😊
Basically something deliberate that involves you taking care of yourself like an amazing person who is worthy of all the pampering and love in this world.
By the way, I’m realizing that the more I take care, love and appreciate myself, the more I’m finding it easier to extend the same to others.
I think that’s why Jesus said “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” For if you’re mean and unloving with yourself how will you extend it to others?
Go ahead, try it out. Let me know how it goes.
(PS: If you have no idea where to start ask Jesus. He always has the best ideas and He loves funding them too 😉😊)