Sign up with your email address to be the first to know about new blogs & more.

Today I went on a date,

Posted on 3

This is me, stepping out for a date, looking like a snack 😂 ( I’ve always wanted to use the phrase “looking like a snack” 😁)


Most importantly, this is me, going on a date, by myself!!!


One of the things I’ve always done is wait to be taken out. By an admirer, a crush or a boyfriend. While reading a book called ‘The artists way’ by Julia Cameron I came across something called the ‘Artists Date.’


This is a date where an artist spoils him/herself for the sake of keeping her creative self alive.


After reading it, I was quite intrigued. I thought about how I always wait for some dude to spoil me and take me out but never actually did it for myself. So I started taking myself out.🎉


Every week I have a date day for myself. I do a different activity based on what I want.


Sometimes it’s a walk in the evening where I pick a spot and watch the sunset, other times it’s a visit to an art gallery because I like art or a simple lunch date. I also check the internet for upcoming events which I attend alone (this has helped me make lots of new friends).

Art gallery date

On the day of the date, I take time to shower and dress up. I put on my lipstick like I’m actually meeting someone special (of which I am) then I go for my date and spend time with myself. I even put my phone on silent.


It has been the most exciting experience. I always feel so rejuvenated and full after the date.


I never plan on what to do during the date. I let it go as it will. Sometimes I review how I’ve been, how my heart is fairing, sometimes I play or stare at whatever captures my eye, other times me and Abba just talk for hours. One time I took myself out for dinner then afterwards went to the rugby pitch at school, laid on my back and watched the stars. It was so good.😊


Poetry date


I’m learning to take care of myself before anyone does. To treat myself like the queen that I am. To press pause on this noisy world, spend time alone without an agenda and simply enjoy being Ivy. It has done wonders.


I’d recommend this whether you’re single or not. (I have a friend who’s married with kids and she takes herself on weekly dates.)


And it doesn’t have to be expensive. You can go for a walk, you can go picking flowers. You can buy yourself a bag of cheese and onion crisps, sit alone and eat it slowly savoring every taste. You can make yourself a nice dinner, set up the table and light a candle, and then eat slowly with some nice Rnb playing in the background 😊

Nature dates are currently my favorite😍


Basically something deliberate that involves you taking care of yourself like an amazing person who is worthy of all the pampering and love in this world.


By the way, I’m realizing that the more I take care, love and appreciate myself, the more I’m finding it easier to extend the same to others.


I think that’s why Jesus said “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.”  For if you’re mean and unloving with yourself how will you extend it to others?


Go ahead, try it out. Let me know how it goes.


(PS: If you have no idea where to start  ask Jesus. He always has the best ideas and He loves funding them too 😉😊)

Love & Blessings
7 Responses
  • david
    August 23, 2018

    lovely one my dear. i think it is a nice ideas to try it out

  • Gideon Ruttoh
    June 18, 2018

    I’m going to try it thanks for sharing i’m inspired

  • Jane Kariuki
    June 18, 2018

    I have never tried it, actually, I don’t like being by myself in public especially hotel, feels weird. I may just try it out.

  • Harvey Mukami Angote
    June 17, 2018

    Ivy, how are you? my name is Harvey Angote from your Facebook friends list, I love photography and I have interest in working with bloggers (Christian bloggers) in trying to capture the best moments in pictures and translate them to literature or poetry.

    I’d love to hear from you.
    Call me/WhatsApp me on +254708396356/+254731592516

  • Benjah
    June 17, 2018

    Yes! It is mind settling, especially when you just let it unfold!

    • Abby
      June 17, 2018

      Ivy I love this insightful thinking and lifestyle…..I have done this before and it actually is therapeutical…..Helps one discover inner strengths, its crazy how it works

What do you think?

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.